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SA Lifeline Foundation was co-founded by Steven and Rhyll Croshaw in 2009. We are dedicated to providing hope, resources, and education related to pornography and sexual addiction recovery.
Q&A Is relapse a part of recovery
In this episode, hosts Tara McCausland and Justin B. discuss the concept of relapse in the context of recovery from sexual addiction. The main discussion revolves around whether relapse is part of addiction recovery, differentiating between terms like lapse and relapse, and emphasizing the importance of rigorous honesty and a recovery mindset for long-term recovery. They also address the partner's perspective on dealing with relapse and the importance of having a relapse preparedness plan in place for safety. Throughout, they highlight the necessity of continuous and honest recovery efforts for sustainable recovery.
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Why Couples Need to Grieve and Mourn To Heal From Betrayal w/Dr. Jake Porter/ Podcast Episode
Просмотров 33День назад
In this episode, Pathway To Recovery podcast host Tara McCausland and guest expert Dr. Jake Porter @drjakeporter discuss the significance of grief in the healing process for betrayed partners and how essential it is for both partners in a relationship to engage in the mourning process. He emphasizes the need for safety and stabilization before addressing grief and mourning, and provides insight...
2024 S.A. Lifeline Conference- 30 Second Ad
Просмотров 127Месяц назад
salifeline.org/conference-2024/ We welcome you to join us for our 2024 Virtual Conference! Date: September 26-28, 2024 Cost: Individual tickets for the three-day event start at $69 (early bird price). We are thrilled to make this event available to a wide audience using Whova. You will be able to watch and participate from your home. It is virtual, but very much interactive! The audience will b...
Q&A How Do Recovery Principles Change the Way I Parent
Просмотров 29Месяц назад
In this episode, hosts Tara McCausland and Justin B. discuss applying recovery principles in parenting and how these principles can positively impact parenting style. They emphasize the importance of surrender, trust in God, and the shift from control, fear and pride to surrender, faith, and humility. Personal anecdotes and member shares from the SAL book highlight the positive impact that reco...
2024 S A Lifeline Conference Invitation With Music
Просмотров 110Месяц назад
Purchase Tickets to the 2024 S.A. Lifeline Virtual Conference salifeline.org/conference-2024/ At S.A. Lifeline, we understand the pain and hopelessness that can accompany habitual pornography use/sex addiction and the resulting betrayal trauma. We look forward to sharing our experience, strength and hope at our annual conference with those who are struggling, their loved ones and other supporte...
Q&A Why and how do I decide to turn my will over to God, Pathway To Recovery Podcast
Просмотров 122 месяца назад
In this Pathway To Recovery Podcast episode, hosts Tara McCausland and Justin B discuss the challenges and importance of Step 3 in the recovery process: making the decision to turn our will and lives over to the care of God. They delve into why this can be difficult, and how it is a daily commitment rather than a one-time action. The dialogue includes personal experiences and insights on how re...
Your Nervous System During and After Sexual Betrayal w KayLee Dunn
Просмотров 802 месяца назад
In this Pathway To Recovery podast episode, host Tara McCausland welcomes guest expert KayLee Dunn, a psychotherapist and betrayal navigation coach. KayLee shares her expertise in helping individuals, especially women, rebuild trust and heal after intimate betrayal. She discusses the role of the nervous system in betrayal trauma, introducing concepts like neuro-intuitive boundaries and survival...
Q&A How Can I Respond To Trauma Triggers In a Healthy Way
Просмотров 392 месяца назад
In this Pathway To Recovery podcast episode, host Tara McCausland and S.A. Lifeline executive assistant Jeni Brockbank discuss how to manage trauma triggers effectively. Jeni shares insights on understanding trauma triggers and emphasizes the importance of self-compassion, self-care, and setting boundaries. The episode includes a discussion on practical steps to take when faced with trauma trig...
Post Discovery Triage Care Establishing Safety & Stabilization for the Betrayed and Betrayer
Просмотров 232 месяца назад
In this episode of the Pathway to Recovery podcast, host Tara McCausland talks with therapist Amanda Christensen about first steps to take immediately following discovery of sexual betrayal. Amanda shares her personal and professional experience, emphasizing the importance of safety, stabilization, and recovery steps for both the betrayed and betraying partners. For the betrayed, prioritizing s...
A Neurosurgeon's Perspective- Making a Case for Sexual Addiction & Hope for Recovery w/ Don Hilton
Просмотров 372 месяца назад
In this episode of the Pathway to Recovery podcast, Tara shares a recent presentation given by Dr. Donald L. Hilton Jr., a neurosurgeon and academic who has studied the effects of pornography on the brain. Hilton discusses how his background informs his understanding of addiction and recovery, offering insights into the nature of addictions (including sexual addiction), and the journey towards ...
Step 2 Love, Hope & Trust w Harvey E
Просмотров 362 месяца назад
In this episode, host Justin B. and guest Harvey E. discuss the transformative power of Step Two in SAL 12-Step and in general 12 Step programs. Harvey, a 69-year-old Orthodox Jewish dentist and a recovering sexaholic, shares his journey of over 35 years struggling with same-sex attraction while being married, and shares his experience, strength, and hope of life in over 10 years of sobriety. T...
Q&A What Is One of the Biggest Obstacles In Recovery
Просмотров 342 месяца назад
In this Pathway To Recovery podcast episode, Justin and Tara discuss the importance of overcoming fear as a major obstacle in successful recovery from addiction and betrayal trauma. The discussion delves into personal experiences with fear and the significance of surrendering to a higher power to gain serenity. They emphasize the need for replacing self-reliance with God reliance, and choosing ...
Step 1- I Didn't Think It Was My Problem w Julie M
Просмотров 252 месяца назад
The podcast episode features Justin B. and guest Julie M. discussing her personal journey through betrayal and recovery due to her husband's sexual addiction. Julie shares her initial reluctance to seek help for herself, believing she wasn't the one with the problem. However, upon realizing her life was unmanageable, she turned to the SAL 12 Step program for support. Throughout their conversati...
Q&A- Is God Powerful Enough/ Good Enough To Restore Me To Sanity?
Просмотров 132 месяца назад
Pathway To Recovery podcast hosts Tara McCausland and Justin B. delve into the crucial question of whether the God of one's understanding is strong enough to restore sanity in the context of recovery. They discuss the common doubts and struggles individuals in recovery face regarding their perception of a higher power, including feelings of abandonment and the question of God's existence and be...
The Value of Therapeutic Disclosure & Tips and Strategies For Best Outcomes w Dan Gray
Просмотров 112 месяца назад
In this Pathway To Recovery podcast episode, host Tara McCausland welcomes Dan Gray to discuss therapeutic disclosure in the healing process for individuals affected by sexual addiction and betrayal trauma. Dan emphasizes the critical role of disclosure to help break the cycle of secrecy and shame surrounding addiction, highlighting the benefits of therapeutic disclosure for both the addict and...
Q&A What Does It Mean To Be Powerless & Making Room For the Miracle
Просмотров 132 месяца назад
Q&A What Does It Mean To Be Powerless & Making Room For the Miracle
Q&A Should I Call It Sexaholism Or Sex Addiction and Why Does My Sobriety Definition Matter
Просмотров 282 месяца назад
Q&A Should I Call It Sexaholism Or Sex Addiction and Why Does My Sobriety Definition Matter
Step 0 Willing To Go To Any Lengths- Even Connect With Others w/ Bryan F
Просмотров 52 месяца назад
Step 0 Willing To Go To Any Lengths- Even Connect With Others w/ Bryan F
The Drama Triangle & Navigating Communication After Sexual Betrayal w/ Dorothy Maryon
Просмотров 102 месяца назад
The Drama Triangle & Navigating Communication After Sexual Betrayal w/ Dorothy Maryon
Q&A What First Steps Should I Take Post Discovery of Sexual Betrayal
Просмотров 52 месяца назад
Q&A What First Steps Should I Take Post Discovery of Sexual Betrayal
Healthy Boundaries for Protection and Peace w Karin C and Jan S
Просмотров 172 месяца назад
Healthy Boundaries for Protection and Peace w Karin C and Jan S
Q&A How Do Boundaries & Bottom Lines Interrupt the Cycle of Addiction
Просмотров 132 месяца назад
Q&A How Do Boundaries & Bottom Lines Interrupt the Cycle of Addiction
Q&A What's the Difference Between Boundaries & Bottom Lines & How Do You Apply Them
Просмотров 292 месяца назад
Q&A What's the Difference Between Boundaries & Bottom Lines & How Do You Apply Them
Empowering Betrayed Partners Through Boundary Setting w Sheri Keffer
Просмотров 292 месяца назад
Empowering Betrayed Partners Through Boundary Setting w Sheri Keffer
Brace for Impact Why Qualified Therapy is Vital in Recovery w Josh Walpole
Просмотров 52 месяца назад
Brace for Impact Why Qualified Therapy is Vital in Recovery w Josh Walpole
Q&A The 12 Steps 101 Where They Came From, What They Are, and Why They are Effective for Recovery
Просмотров 102 месяца назад
Q&A The 12 Steps 101 Where They Came From, What They Are, and Why They are Effective for Recovery
Qualified Therapy Why it's Important, How to Find it, and Why it Complements 12 Step Work w Dan Dr
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Qualified Therapy Why it's Important, How to Find it, and Why it Complements 12 Step Work w Dan Dr
Q&A How Has Recovery Work Changed the Way You Set Goals
Просмотров 102 месяца назад
Q&A How Has Recovery Work Changed the Way You Set Goals
The What & Why of SAL 12 Step for Betrayal Trauma Recovery w Kahi Winget
Просмотров 352 месяца назад
The What & Why of SAL 12 Step for Betrayal Trauma Recovery w Kahi Winget
Q&A What Does It Mean To 'Surrender' and Why Is It So Powerful?
Просмотров 102 месяца назад
Q&A What Does It Mean To 'Surrender' and Why Is It So Powerful?
The religious leader who told the patient she had to forgive and stay with her husband for child pornography is an extreme interpretation of Religion. The bible prescribes that Sexual immorality called porneia (Hebrew) is a valid reason to divorce. It was later Catholic teachers and theologists that changed the rules, which are NOT based on the Bible. Christianity is much more fair, to be honest. But forgiveness is recommended, but not necessarily staying in that marriage.
I do not know the BYU, or overall church stats, but According to Pornhub's 2021 annual statistics review revealed that worldwide 32% of porn viewers were women.Mar 25, 2022. As far as masturbating- everyone is doing, or has tried it. Let’s not be sexist, or judgemental.
The trauma caused to the betrayed partner is gut wrechingly agonizing. Its maniacal and malicious injury period.
Betrayal Trauma is real. A CSAT is such a great resource. The lying is as bad as the actions. We all were lied to, in addition to cheated on. I'm so sorry for everyone who finds themselves here. We are all healing. ❤
Weird that you make this gender specific. Women can be addicted to porn. Why be sexist? Shouldn't it say "effects on spouses"? As a woman, I'm offended.
God is so good 🙌🏻🔥
We agree!! <3 Thanks for commenting.
My relationship was going downhill and couldn’t figure out why until I found out he was watching porn and spending time watching instead of looking in his partner what he wanted somewhere else that’s what affected me. Some guys use it and don’t leave their partners in the shadow they get excited with their partners but if he is forgetting u and doing what’s he’s doing he has a problem and he isn’t worth finding a therapist either.
Guys deny it when confronted that makes it more of a betrayal that they are lying and that is when trust in that person is lost. I had to ask him why he dis that and the answer was it poped on my phone and then I had to show him he searched it up so I made my conclusion he was lying and that brought the relationship to the edge. It’s more than just watching that it’s the lie and you can’t trust someone that might do worse after that.
Thank you for sharing your amazing story Roy!
What a great video!!! That being said, I’ve come to the conclusion that, with porn being so accessible, it affects everyone of us. It’s destroying relationships everywhere and it can’t be cured unless we take the internet down. What’s really frightening is that children can access porn at any given time. I liked life before we had the internet
So true it's an epidemic
How can I access the free online men's workshop?
Truly sorry that we are slow to see this. I hope that you were able to find the link. If you'd like a recap of the online men's workshop that featured therapist Dorothy Maryon and Justin B, you can become a member of our Digital Recovery Library here: salifeline.org/donate/ Best wishes!
Really good stuff
Recently found out that my husband is addicted to porn, and you've literally listed all of the effects that I'm experiencing. I don't know what to do at the moment. We have 2 kids, 5yrs and a 3 months old
Hello @JoyMala3. We understand how devastating this discovery can be. We would recommend you learn more about betrayal trauma by listening to our podcast, Pathway to Recovery, and learn how qualified therapy and 12-Step work can help you on this journey of healing. You can sign up for a free SAL 12-Step meeting at www.sal12step.org.
Wow! Your window analogy was spot on
ThAnk you
This is so important, god bless these courageous brothers and sisters for sharing.
I can't deal with this anymore. I don't know what the truth is. The extreme emotional abuse
Sex we are taught/educated more about the universe and the ocean floor. It’s completely natural, yet we cloth are bodies and even talking about it is taboo. You may blame Porn or whatever I blame the human condition.
Great topical work here
After years of 100% rejection and having a plutonic marriage (my husband is a lying, abusive porn addict - extreme verbal, physical and emotional abuse - I have been in a Normas amount of weight, suffered a horrible debilitating physical injury that left me in a wheelchair for a little while, I have been extremely depressed and sad, and for two years I have been quiet about having a constant bleeding colon - could be diverticulitis, ulcerative colitis, etc. and I believe it’s all due to the extreme rejection and verbal abuse. this morning my cat died and he was really old and it was his time to go, I really and feed him because he’s out of this house. There’s no one in this world that cares if I am alive or dead every day. I love God and I’m just really tired of being here on the earth. Due to my disability unable to work and I’m so trapped and I have to rely on my husband to support us. If something happens to him and he can’t work, there is absolutely no way I can survive. I have tried for years to get him to stop lying to me and I have found a porn on the computer and on his phone and everything else for many years and he continues to lie and things are horribly bad. I’m just so tired of all of it. I am grateful that I have two cats and three dogs that love me. I remember years ago when I believe that he really loved me and I dealt with his alcohol addiction at that time and he recovered from that but I had apparently other addictions that I was unaware of for many years including a porn addiction. I’m really tired and have felt like a used piece of toilet paper for many years.
Thank you for describing this so accurately and in such detail. You have helped to validate me and the trauma I’m experiencing and given me a point of reference that I can share with my husband to help him to understand the trauma and pain and confusion I am experiencing. And to help him understand the healing that I/we will need to move forward and to forgive and to process what has happened. 😢❤thank you
Thank you for sharing your story of hope The Lord has helped me in so many ways through His atonement to continue in the marriage. Including giving me strength & desire to forgive .
My husband and I have been together 6 years. We have had a wonderful, full relationship!! He has a very high sex drive and this was never a problem. Within the last year (I’m turning 50 this year) I have gained weight and my sex drive has dropped dramatically. I have recently found that he is watching porn, something I have never seen before from him. It hurts so much because I am so lost right now and not sure how to fix myself. I’m really trying to balance my hurt with my trust in him. Does he have a problem? How do I get back to myself? Is this as serious as it hurts??
Thank you for reaching out. Many partners wonder if it is their fault their spouse has turned to porn instead of them for sexual fulfillment. Many partners also find themselves experiencing deep pain as a result of their significant other using porn, but wonder if their pain is valid since it seems that using porn is just what everyone does, right? In truth, when our loved one uses porn and does so in secret or in the open, it feels like a betrayal in the relationship because it is a betrayal of trust. When we choose to gratify our sexual desires through the myriad forms of porn, sexting, chat rooms, etc, the pain is very very real for the betrayed spouse. You are not alone in feeling this way. We invite you to go to our website www.salifeline.org and learn more about what we call betrayal trauma. There is hope and help available.
The Steps don’t help with Narcissistic’s
The Psalms are comforting
Trust needs to be earned by Henry Cloud
I disagree that 12 Steps help everyone. My X Alcoholic who was sober from alcohol for 20 plus years hid his secret sex addiction from me for 13 years. I endured Gaslighting, pathological lying, financial betrayals and legal betrayal
I am delivering a sermon to you 🙏😊 please read Consistently Pray for forgiveness, guidance in a good (positive) direction, and for help against evil. Pray to be saved from hell (whatever that may be). Pray for your friends and your family too, it only takes a minute or so/less at a time to pray. Do it and your life will slowly get better, or maybe quickly. It probably just depends on you and the kind of person you are/have been. Don't wait until its too late and you have to suffer the consequences of built up bad karma from immoral acts/unrepented sins. Maybe together we can help make the world a better place by changing ourselves for the better, and changing things around us for the better. And addressing/thanking the CREATOR, LORD GOD at the beginning and end of your prayers would be a good idea 😊 Or just be my friend if you don't want to say the prayer 😄 I'm trying to help you get right with the LORD 🙏 Amen. I have worded a short prayer for you to say if you are not sure what words to use, it may not be the best but here it is 😊 '' CREATOR, LORD GOD, Please forgive me and my friends and my family for our immoral acts, please help guide us in a positive direction and please help us against evil. Please save us from Hell and have mercy on our souls. Thank you CREATOR, LORD GOD. Amen. '' Please say this at least once a day for at least a month, do it longer if you want to and can 🙏 You should prostrate yourself if you don't want to do spoken prayer, or do both 🙏😊 Please worship the LORD GOD and not any idol. Please put your hands together 🙏 bow your head and say this prayer: "CREATOR, LORD GOD, please know that I worship you and not any idols. Thank you for everything CREATOR, LORD GOD. Amen" Say ' Om Namah Shivaya ' out loud or in your head 108 times, or try to do it 1008 times 😊 try to do it everyday if you want repeat this aloud for as long as you want to, try to do it for like an hour a day or say it in a prayer "Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on me, a sinner" You can also say this prayer once a day or repeat it aloud as many times as you would like to: "Hail Mary, full of grace. The Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou amongst women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death, Amen." 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏 Thessalonians 5:16-18 "Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you." Philippians 4:6-7 "Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus." "O Blood and Water, which gushed forth from the Heart of Jesus as a fount of mercy for us, I trust in You!" Repeat this aloud at least 3 times or as many as you want, do it everyday if you can I apologize for all the words 😊 I know how it may look
Religion really pisses me off. A sin is a sin, none worse than another. All are equally wrong in Gods eyes.
That’s incorrect thinking.
We went through pre marriage counseling and in the very beginning I said I had a huge problem with porn and strippers. To me it’s cheating 😡 and he agreed with me and said when someone is married they shouldn’t be even doing that. And I feel for it how stupid I found out about an affair he had 2 years ago and low and behold I found out he had strippers and went to step clubs behind my back and lied about it. I filed for divorce and he swore he would never do porn again and a few months later I had a feeling and I was right. Why can’t you be honest with someone you created such hurt and devastation for your wife. They have no idea how hurtful this is and I will honest never get over it 31 years of nothing but lies 😢
There is absolutely no shame worse than the shame of being a sexual pervert. You feel so absolutely worthless. An utter failure.
Deep tms was usless
Leaves u lethargic tired,unmotaved ,depressed,flat,etc.
Terry crews book manhood
These people are so brave. I am proud of every one of these people. I am so proud of all of them. They are set free.
Its 2023 still no change
Im crying as we speek watching this its 2023 march still no change
So sorry the beast, my name for it, has held tight to you. Those dealing with this beast need one another, we can’t do it alone..we just can’t. It’s a daily battle..a daily walk thru the fire. But it is possible, that I know. Reach out…
As a religious missionary I help run a 12 step addiction recovery program (after going through it myself 20 years ago). I came across this documentary both online and with a DVD included in a book I purchased titled "Understanding Pornography Addiction & Betrayal Trauma Manual" at a local bookstore. I have already shared the book to some people and will definitely be sharing this video. To everyone who participated in putting this documentary together, and for all of you therapists, whether in the video or who are watching this, thank you for all you do! You are the shepherds of our day.
Thank you for all the work you do. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Not only are you saving those with the addiction but the women and men who love them.
@@teresanolivo4075 Thank you. That's what makes this opportunity to serve on this mission such a blessing. I get to witness people struggle with addiction, and also fight and find success as they gain a better understanding of the atonement and the impact that it can have in their lives. I'm not the one who is saving these individuals, it's them recognizing that there is hope as they connect with one another, and especially as they connect with God, and Jesus Christ as the Spirit communicates their love for them as they push through each day, sometimes each hour, or minute. Their is hope provided in attending 12 step meetings. Not just because of the organized program, but because of the love, the support and connection between all who are attending. Unfortunately there are more people out there who struggle with addiction than we realize, but both you and I can make an impact in someone's life through that same love and connection.
My brain refuses to heal,not just a young person issue
Not just a young person issssissue trust me
Gen Z must find it very easy to get addicted with rapid cell phone uses.
Women read lovey dovey novels. Now that hurts me! Sob!
People still read? 😂
Oh! The things! I don't think!
Awesome message that more people need to be aware of. Blessings in Jesus Christ's name
Buying other human being bodies for pleasure is not an addiction.
It’s degrading another human being
Many, many people would disagree with your assessment on that. But regardless of a person's reason for buying sex, no honest person can say that that does not harm both individuals involved in that interaction. Using another person's body simply to seek your own pleasure is a form of abuse and abusive behavior creates negative ripple effects on the abused and abuser.
Wow! Thank you so so much!